Why chasing love (or any other feeling) is keeping you from true contentment and joy.
Luck has Nothing to do with Love
Stories about relationships, love, communication and personal growth from a reformed counselor dating in her 30's.
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“I just got off the phone…,” he trailed off, swallowing rage and shoved the phone in front of my face.
“What were you thinking?”
My first reaction was to make light of it: “Well, I guess she’s not coming,” I said and turned the corner into the organic food section.
“That’s good. I didn’t want to have to find something vegetarian last minute.”
He followed me, a little too closely. His voice rose. I don’t remember what he said. I felt a heat rise from deep in my belly and flush my face. We were alone in the aisle, but the people walking by w
No matter how many times I say to myself: love is an action, not a feeling, an action,” my brain sometimes gets entangled with feelings and all of sudden, I feel out control. And I act like a fool.
Why? Because we can’t control our emotions. It’s a scam. A lie. Just like you can’t just have everything you want or desire.
Why do we think this about our partners, our friends, our family?
Maybe we should take a clue from the data and learn to love them as a unique part of our relationship instead of trying to solve them.
It’s one where two people journey through hell and back, sometimes together and sometimes not, all the while knowing that they are loved and desired by another no matter what.